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Making Men Moan: User’s Guide to the P-Spot

Making Men Moan: User’s Guide to the P-Spot

The P-spot is well renowned for its orgasmic abilities – when done right, the prostate can cause extreme, full-body orgasms for men, resulting in tingling sensations all over their bodies. Touching and rubbing the prostate gland is so sensual as the area is absolutely packed with nerve endings – almost the same amount as what’s found in the clitoris. It’s for this reason that prostate orgasms can feel better than penile ones –  they’re deeper and last longer.

The Humble Prostate: Understanding Its Anatomy and Function

Anatomically, the prostate is a muscular gland, weighing approximately ¾ of an ounce (20g) – surrounding the urethra just beneath the bladder. During ejaculation, millions of sperm move from the testes through tubes called the vas deferens into the area of the prostate. At this point, the prostate contracts, closing off the opening between the bladder and the urethra, releasing fluid into and pushing semen out. Surprisingly, the fluid excreted by the prostate makes up about 1/3 of the total volume of semen. So, if the main function of the prostate is to aid in ejaculation, what makes it so pleasurable?

Well, it’s filled with a crap-ton of nerves of course! The nerves of the prostatic plexus are distributed to the corpora cavernosa of the urethra and penis, which are areas of expandable tissue that fill with blood during sexual arousal, creating a penile erection. Nerves from the plexus also travel to the vesiculae seminales of the prostate, which are the glands that secrete seminal fluid.

2 sets of nerves (originating in the prostate) are connected to the corpora cavernosa – the uber-sensitive underside of the penis. (The corpora cavernosa also happens to be one of the most sensitive parts of a woman’s internal-clitoris.) The nerves originate from the anterior plexus and travel forward where they attach to the pudendal nerve branches. This network of nerves supports the function of penile erection. Any injury or damage, therefore, results in erectile dysfunction. During pelvic operations, the surgeon must be cautious to maintain the integrity of the fascial to avoid nerve damage. 

Using It the Right Way

For many men, massaging the prostate (P-spot) is a true sexual turn-on that can make sexual climax more pleasurable – it’s more important for a guy’s sex life than he might realize. The prostate is a small gland about the size of a walnut which is located internally, in between the penis (front), bladder (above) and rectum (behind). It can be indirectly accessed via insertion of a finger (or toy of choice) 2-3 inches (5-7 cm) into the anus and gently stroking – or by massaging the perineum (a generally defined area in both males and females between the pubic symphysis and the coccyx. The perineum is below the pelvic diaphragm and between the legs. It is a diamond-shaped area that includes the anus and, in females, the vagina.)

Prostate Male P-Spot

It’s a total myth that only certain kinds of guys will be keen on P-spot stimulation. For instance, some people think that a man who’s okay with a woman taking the lead, such as a beta man, is the only one who’ll be keen on P-spot stimulation, but that’s not true. Same goes for the myth that only gay guys like P-spot action. Many straight, alpha guys like P-spot orgasms because it gives them the chance to experience totally new and full-bodied stimulation.

As mentioned above, the male G-spot (or the P-Spot) is about 2-3 inches inside the rectum – but when looking for the spot you will need to move your fingers towards the direction of his belly-button. The prostate gland will feel rough and spongy.  It’s important to also take your time with any initial attempts. You’re not going to be able to make him orgasm immediately, especially if you’re trying to rush it (or he’s never experienced it before). Patience will definitely make the experience more satisfying. It’s also best done in combination with other sexual activities.

P-spot orgasms can be sexy for women too! A LELO study found that 80% of women would perform a prostate massage if their partner was down for it. In fact, many women enjoy giving their partners pleasure. So, when he’s having a P-sport orgasm, it means he’s getting a taste of what it’s like to have a penetration G-spot orgasm. With this in mind, it’s important to have open communication during sex and never be too shy or afraid to ask your partner if that tickles your fancy.

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Guide to Sex with Disabilities

Guide to Sex with Disabilities

This is a sentence that most people agree with in theory, but unfortunately, that hasn’t always worked out in practice. For people with disabilities, having sex can seem difficult, or even impossible, and the emotional and mental cost of that can be devastating. It’s an added and invisible weight to the struggles of disability.  

Adding to that, society often completely ignores the sexual needs of people with disabilities, preferring to assume that it is secondary and unimportant. We don’t take into account the vital importance of intimacy and human connection, of touch and taste, and of that shivering bond. That’s unfair, and literally dehumanizes a huge group. 

Sex is part of what makes us human, and can’t be taken away simply due to injury or disability. We think sex is for everyone, and we spend every one of our days proving that. 

At Sportsheets, our mission is to help everyone enjoy the intimate thrills of sexual relations. We’ve created products that serve people with a wide variety of disabilities, injuries, and pain. We know the toll that not being able to be close to our partners can take on a relationship and our sense of self, and we want to ease that toll and bring couples closer together. 

Our goal is to create products that can enable passion from any angle, regardless of disability. We create both sex toys and sexual positioning devices that can foster different sexual experiences for both partners, and that work for a wide variety of people. We know you want to change up angles and experiences—we all do—and these toys and devices make it possible.So if you or a loved one has had an injury or a disability, we hope that some of our products will help you claim or regain the intimacy you deserve.

Helping everyone have fulfilling sex is one of our primary missions here at Sportsheets.

Why We Care

At Sportsheets, service is in our blood.

Sportsheets CEO Tom Stewart is a veteran

Sportsheets founder Tom Stewart enlisted in the Marines in 1983, becoming a pilot. In the Marine Corps he flew a CH-46 Sea Knight; in the Navy, an H-60 Sea Hawk. He achieved the rank of Commander 05 in Navy, Retired (CDR USNR RET). After serving 6 years of active duty in the Western Pacific (WestPac), he spent the next 14 in the Marine Reserves.

With this long history of service, Tom understands the pain and depression that can come from being wounded. For so many young men and women, their injuries would seem to be a barrier to a healthy sex life. Loss of limbs or genitals, severe spinal injuries leading to paraplegia or quadriplegia, and other injuries, have too often closed the door to sexuality.

That’s a terrible price to pay, above and beyond what they have already given to their country. It can wreck relationships and destroy self-esteem. This is just as devastating for the wives, husbands, boyfriends, and girlfriends of wounded vets as well. While they pick up the role of caregiver, they lose the role of lover. This kind of tension can destroy relationships.

That’s not right, and that’s one of the main reasons Sportsheets has dedicated itself to helping all couples achieve or maintain intimacy, a healthy sexual relationship, and their sense of mutual exploration.

Tom has participated on panels with psychologists and therapists during the Road to Recovery conferences for wounded and disabled veterans. Since 2010, Tom has worked very closely with the Coalition to Salute America's Heroes. Our sex toys and sexual positioning devices can help our wounded warriors overcome the barriers that were placed in front of them.

Juan and Christy Discuss Overcoming Sexual Challenges as a Wounded Combat Veteran

These devices can be used by anyone with a disability or injury, of course. But too often, society thinks that disabled people somehow don’t deserve sex, or that it is something they shouldn’t be concerned about. We couldn’t disagree more.

We think everyone deserves to have a healthy sex life, filled with whatever kinks they want. There is no one right way for our wounded vets or disabled or injured people to have sex. We think they should be able to explore, to experiment, and to find ways to share something beautiful with their partners.

It’s something we owe our veterans, and something we should recognize as a human right. Everyone deserves to have sex. Keeping couples connected is our driving purpose, and our commitment to everyone in the community.

Sex After Spinal Cord Injury

Further Information on Sex with Disabilities and Injuries

Our blog is here to help if you or a partner have any of these disabilities:

Amputee

Whether from war, illness, or accident, losing a limb means adjusting to new realities. As you relearn yourself, you and your partner have to relearn your sexuality. But this is a positive: it’s an opportunity to build new trust, discover new passions, and explore new ideas.

Arthritis

Whether in the hands, wrists, knees or feet, arthritis can often prove an obstacle to sex and intimacy. Alternate positions that reduce the need for using affected joints can go a long way towards making sex more accessible and enjoyable.

Back Pain/Injury

Back pain can make nearly everything you do more difficult, especially something as physical as sex. But it doesn’t have to erase possibilities. Dealing with back pain in sex is like dealing with it everywhere: you accommodate. You find ways to still have great, mutually-satisfying intercourse. We can help with that.

Cerebral Palsy

CP's symptoms of muscle rigidity, muscle weakness, spasticity, and fatigue can impact your sex life, and some planning will be necessary to mitigate that impact. Frank conversations about needs and capabilities in bed, as well as specific positions and a variety of products can help overcome these challenges, and result in a healthy, satisfying sex life.

Erectile Dysfunction

Stress, heart disease, aging: there are many factors in erectile dysfunction, which is why over half of all men experience either short- or long-term ED. But with hollow strap-ons, anal explorer kits, beads, and more, there doesn’t need to be a loss of activity in the bedroom.

General Joint or Muscle Pain

Any of a number of ailments or injuries can cause (acute or chronic) joint and muscle pain, resulting in some sex positions being more painful than others. Don't try to 'power through the pain'... seek out alternative positions or sex acts that can still satisfy, without aggravating your existing pain.

Hip Replacement

Hip replacement used to be synonymous with the end of activity, including sex. But that is no longer the case. Advances in hips—and in the sex toys that can make up for any loss of movement or balance—mean that surgery is no longer the end of a sex life, but a new beginning.

Knee Pain/Injury

So often sex seems to involve at least one person on their knees, leveraging those joints for position or for thrusting. That makes sex difficult for those with knee pain or injuries, but those obstacles and be surmounted with positioning and pressure-easing toys.

Multiple Sclerosis

MS presents a wide variety and range of side effects, many which can impact sex. It may result in reduced sex drive or arousal and sensation, and spasticity, fatigue, or pain can make sex more of a challenge. Various products and positions can help alleviate these difficulties.

Paraplegic

The loss of movement and feeling in the legs (possibly also accompanied by the same in the genitals), doesn’t have to be the end of a sex life. For men or women, this can be overcome with patience, consideration, love, and the right devices. There’s no reason not to share the same kind of human intimacy we all deserve.

Quadriplegic

Though there are enormous challenges to sex with quadriplegia, couples can still share sexual intimacy. Communication, positioning devices, and adult toys can provide not just a rekindling of sexual relationships, but variety as well. Quadriplegics and their partners can still enjoy exploring different positions and experiences.

Wheelchair

Being in a wheelchair doesn’t have to be a limitation to sexuality; in fact, it can open up whole new worlds of angles and positions. The chair itself can be incorporated kinkily and excitingly, and you and your partner can find whole new avenues of intimacy.

Wounded Vet

Veterans can experience a terrible range of injuries, everything from burns to a loss of limbs to severe spinal injuries. These come with emotional costs, too, risking the possibility of intimacy. We empower our wounded vets to regain what they sacrificed for us, in every aspect of their lives, including sexuality.

Sportsheets Sex Toys and Sexual Positioning Devices

Some of our products are specifically designed for people with disabilities or injuries, others are products you can still use to enhance your sexual connection. These can all be used for a large variety of people of different abilities and orientations, so do your research, and discover what is right for you and your partner.

Door Jam Sex Sling
Perfect for when one partner is in a wheelchair or can’t use their legs, the door jam sex sling makes the person strapped to the door weightless. They or their partner can then move up and down, controlling the speed and the depth of penetration

 

Sex Sling/Super Sex Sling
A neck strap and connected ankle/foot cuffs allow a person to raise and support their legs for deeper penetration while reducing pressure put on the back, neck, or legs. The support reduces leg fatigue and lower back pressure while the angle created enhances G-spot stimulation during penetration. Includes a deluxe comfort neck rest and instructional DVD.

 

G-Spot Link
This is especially helpful for people who have trouble keeping their legs in the air, as it allows their legs to be lifted together, and it maintains the position where their legs are placed, while letting the partner get the best angle for g-spot stimulation. 

Click here for our full selection of products chosen specifically to enhance sex for people with disabilities

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Guide to Beginner's BDSM

Guide to Beginner's BDSM

BDSM isn’t outside the mainstream. It is a sexual practice enjoyed by many and desired by even more. Many people, probably even you, have fantasized or imagined it but thought that maybe it isn’t for you.

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Guide to Beginner's Pegging

Guide to Beginner's Pegging

For some people, pegging is just about the most fun you can have with a strap-on. For others, it’s something they’ve always thought about trying, but never quite got around to. For still others, it might be a completely unfamiliar term.

If you’re in that third group, wonder no longer: pegging is, quite simply, when a woman fucks a man in the ass with a strap-on.

There are lots of reasons why couples enjoy pegging. First and foremost is the fact that anal play can feel great. Lots of men enjoy having their prostate stimulated. Being pegged often hits the perfect spot.

It’s also an intensely intimate act. Pegging puts the woman in the driver's seat and allows her to control the pace of pleasure – something she might not otherwise get to experience. It’s an act that can turn the power dynamic of a relationship on its head, and allow for some fantastic fantasy play.

So maybe you’re ready to give pegging a try. But how do you go about it? There are a few things you should keep in mind before trying pegging with your partner.

Pegging your partner

Getting emotionally ready

Because pegging is such an intense act, it often requires a little emotional groundwork before the fun can begin. If you want to peg your partner, it’s important to discuss it with them beforehand. An intimate act like this isn’t something you should spring on them as a surprise!

While many men really enjoy anal play, they can also be reluctant to open up to it. Allowing you to penetrate them can feel like a reversal of roles or a giving up of power. For someone who has never been a receiver before, being fucked can be intensely vulnerable and intimate.

You might find that even though your partner enjoys anal play, they’re not into pegging. It’s just too much for some people and doesn’t get them off, no matter how much they might enjoy having their ass stimulated in other ways. Be prepared to accept that your partner might not be into, no matter how gentle or patient you are.

If you’re the one who wants to experience pegging, be tactful when raising it with your partner. They may be very into it, which is excellent… but equally, they might have a hard time taking control, and might not have any previous experience of anal play, making them reluctant to try something so new and unfamiliar.

When you shop for supplies (see below), do it together. Do some research together too. Talk, talk, talk. Discuss how you think it might feel, and how you’re going to go about it. Discussing things like this gives your partner a chance to get comfortable with what’s about to happen… and builds up some excitement as well.

Getting your kit ready

Depending on what’s in your toy box, you might need to pick up a few things before experimenting with pegging. First and foremost, you’ll need a strap-on harness and a dildo to go inside it. It’s best to err on the small side when first setting out to play. You may like to buy a “beginner” strap-on dildo, or graduated set of dildos so that you can swap them out and work your way up through the sizes.

The other thing you’ll need is lube. A lot of it. The number one problem couples have when experimenting with anal play is that they don’t use enough! Make sure to pick up plenty of lube, and consider buying specially-formulated anal lube. This is thicker and won’t dry out or disappear as quickly as a regular lubricant.

Not everyone enemas before engaging in anal play, but if you want to, a good-quality enema bulb is a must. This ensures that you are squeaky clean before play begins, which might help you relax and enjoy yourself. Conversely, using an enema can dry out the rectum if done too often or too aggressively. Strike a balance that works for you. You won’t need a full enema, just a low enema that cleans out the immediate area.

Finally, gloves and wipes can be handy. Wipes make cleaning up a breeze, and gloves allow you to play with your partner’s ass, then change gloves and move onto other areas of their body without spreading any mess.

Pegging!

Once you’ve talked things over and got hold of your equipment, the fun can begin. Lots of people think that being on hands and knees is the only way to receive anal penetration, but it can be challenging to relax in this position if you’ve never tried it before. Pegging while spooning, or with the receiving partner lying flat on their front makes for a milder first-time experience.

Use lots of lube, both on the strap-on and on the receiving partner’s anus. Making sure they’re turned on before you begin can really help them relax and make penetration much more comfortable. Needless to say, be gentle and patient. Once the tip is inside, you can let the receiving partner set the pace by thrusting back against you. This will tell you how fast and how deep they want it before you fully take control.

Don’t get impatient if your partner can’t take a strap-on straight away, even if it’s small. Playing with butt plugs and other anal toys can be an excellent way to warm up and get used to the sensation, making pegging easier down the line.

If using regular lube, you may want to reapply it a few times during the session, as it can dry out. Likewise, keep stimulating the receiving partner in other ways too as you penetrate them, to keep them relaxed.

Conclusion

Pegging is an amazingly intimate act and one that lots of couples enjoy. It’s not for everyone, but if you want to experiment with it, the steps above should help you have a great time doing so. Prepare carefully, talk it over with your partner, and – most of all – have fun!

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Guide to Selecting a Lube

Guide to Selecting a Lube

The truth is, sex isn’t always as romantic as it seems in our favorite blockbusters or on T.V. – sometimes it’s uncoordinated, uncomfortable and could use some lube to smooth things over. Sometimes you’re ready to go, and she’s not quite there, or she just might not physically be able to stay naturally wet during long-lasting sex.

Personal lubricant is the quickest, easiest and probably most effective preventative measure that you can take against dryness and chaffing during sex. It can also help prolong love-making sessions and make your own masturbation more enjoyable. It’s also essential for anything anal!

Even if you consider your sex life to be in pretty good shape, you should consider the advantages of introducing a personal lubricant. Quickies can actually be quick, long time love-making smooth and you and your partner will avoid any post soreness that you might have previously experienced from too much friction.

For starters, virtually all lubes on the market today fall into one of 3 categories:

  • water-based
  • silicone
  • oil (g., Sweet Almond, Jojoba, Coconut, Sunflower, Argan, and Ylang Ylang)

While each of these groups has their advantages, water-based lubricates tend to be the most popular. This article aims at summarising the pros and cons of each lubricant type.

Water-Based


Water Based LubeSince they're water-soluble, the body’s skin and mucous membranes will absorb them more easily. This makes clean-up much simpler: just a little warm water (maybe some soap) and the lube will easily wash off the skin.Water-based lubes are just that: water-based. Their main feature is that they are smooth and slick - without being sticky or messy like silicone and oil-based lubes.

However, its solubility also means that you might have to periodically re-apply it, depending on how long you’re at it. This is one of the chief drawbacks in regards to water-based lube – since we all know that in the heat of the moment, an interruption is probably the worst thing that could happen.

Water-based lubes have the added advantage of being completely condom-compatible, as opposed to oil-based lubes that corrode latex (more on that later). One thing to watch out for, however, is that many water-based lubricants contain glycerine, which can promote infections in women pretty easily and makes quick post-sex clean-up mandatory. It’s important to check the ingredient list to ensure that the product is glycerine free before buying.

Silicone-Based


Silicone LubeSilicone-based lubricants are slick and can be used in water (hot tubs, showers, lakes, swimming pools). They are less likely to need multiple applications (in comparison to water-based lubes). They generally require soap and water for clean-up. Use them sparingly and avoid getting them on surfaces you don’t want to slip on later.Silicone-based lubes are similar to water-based lubes but are generally much greasier and last much longer –despite having a thinner texture. In fact, that's their main advantage: silicone-based lubes take ages to dry out. No muss, no fuss, no need to reapply.

The word "silicone" may not sound like the kind of thing you want anywhere near your most intimate parts, but the truth is, it's a very body-safe ingredient. Silicone is hypoallergenic and cannot be absorbed into the skin. The silicone lube’s forte is its unmatched slickness and staying power. Silicone lube will not dry out… period. Plus, it will stay on in water but washes off easily with soap.

Silicone lubricant cannot be used with a silicone toy (it will cause the material to deteriorate). It can also be tough to wash out of fabric, so, you know, try to be naked when you use it.

Oil-Based Lubes

Oil-based lubes aren’t as popular as the previous two kinds. Probably since they’re:

  1. incredibly messy
  2. commonly known for their corrosive effects on latex condoms

(it’s important to add that oil lubes are safe to use with nitrile, polyisoprene and polyurethane condoms – but these tend to be more expensive.)

In the early 90’s a study was conducted by the International Journal of STD and AIDS. The objective of the study was to observe the impact that additional lubricant had on condom breakage and slippage. 268 couples agreed to participate in the study. Each couple was given 6 new and 6 aged condoms to use during vaginal intercourse (which they were able to do privately at home). They were also instructed to use:

  • no lubricant,
  • a water-based lube or
  • an oil-based lubricant.

Unsurprisingly, the use of a lubricant (either water or oil-based) increased slippage rates of both new and oil condoms. However, researchers found that the use of the oil-based lube increased breakage in both new and old condoms.

Water-based lube was not found to impact breakage of new condoms and decreased the breakage rate of the aged ones. Couples using no lubricants discovered that old condoms broke more often new ones.

This study suggests that condom users should stay clear of any oil-based lubricants. The water-based lubricants were found to be the most slippery (which is ideal during sex) while protecting the condom from damage.

Aside from condom breakage, natural oil-based lubes can be a great option for couples who prefer not to use condoms. They are nature’s natural lubricants and can be a lot better for the environment. Most of them can be found in your kitchen. The general rule is:

‘if it’s safe for you to eat, it’s safe for your genitals’

The body can clear out natural oils more easily than petroleum-based lubricants – so try to avoid those. Oils such as grapeseed and apricot tend to be thinner and therefore better suited to vaginal intercourse.

When choosing a lubricant, it’s important to take your needs and health into consideration. Water-based lubes provide great lubrication (and are gentler on your genitals), but require top-ups – which might get annoying. Silicone lubricants are long lasting (no top-up required), but they can lean more on the pricey side of things. They are generally a great lube, and if you have the money, they’re worth the cost. Oil lubricants can be very hit and miss. They degrade latex condoms – so not the best to use if you’re trying to have safe sex. If you, however, are not a condom user and looking for a cheap alternate lube, then natural oils are the way to go – just steer clear of products with petroleum as they’ll cause genital irritation.

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Guide to Sex Over 60 (positions)

Guide to Sex Over 60 (positions)

Where is it written that we can no longer have intense, wild sex as we get older? If passion is the name of your game, don’t let a number be the thing that throws you off it.

That said, every part of your body likely doesn’t work or feel quite the same way it did when you were younger, so you shouldn’t expect or try to make your sex life the same, either. And let’s emphasize: we’re talking about your sex life changing, not diminishing. A lifetime of experience—and years of shared intimacy for long-term couples—can lead you to intensely passionate sex. You may just want to keep a few concepts and positions in mind.

Positions, Positions

Many over 60 prefer sexual positions that ease the pressure on their joints and shift focus to mutual satisfaction and away from intense physical stamina. Below are five fantastic positions for sex over 60, along with some options for toys and aids. Remember: sex toys are not just for the young! They are fun tools that can enhance the pleasure and satisfaction for all partners.

Spooning/Side-by-Side
This is an ideal position for many senior partners. If you experience pain or difficulty standing for long periods or leaning backward, then the flexion of this position may bring some relief to your back and your hips. Spooning is perfect for intimate sex that doesn’t require aggressive movement of the lower back and hips.

• Since spooning sex lends itself to a gradually building climax, using a toy that stimulates and heightens sensation can be a lot of fun. Consider trying a cock ring, anal beads, or nipple clips.

Modified Doggie Style
This classic can be adapted to lessen the pressure and agility needed to perform it. To modify this position, have the receiving partner kneel in front of the bed, with a pillow beneath their knees and their belly and chest pressed firmly into the bed. This will ease the pressure on their hips and back, and makes use of the bed for stability. You can also place a pillow underneath the forehead for additional support.

• Using a doggie-style strap allows you to use your arms, more than your hips, to create the thrusting motion. If this modified position creates too much pressure on either partner’s knees, try the next three positions.
Leg-Over-Leg
Both partners should lie down on their backs, nestled closely side-by-side. Then, the receiving partner should throw one leg over their partner’s and position themselves at an angle that allows for entry. This position takes a lot of stress off of the lower back and shoulders.

 • If you find it difficult to keep your leg or foot in one position, consider cuffs and a tether to help keep your leg secure and stable.

The Hot Seat
We mentioned this position as an excellent option for wheelchair sex because it allows for deeper penetration while using the chair for stability and comfort. You should sit in the chair, with your back flush against the backrest for support, and have your partner sit on your lap, with their legs and feet over yours. Your partner can use the armrests for stability and control the angle, speed, and depth of your sex. Any chair or seat in your home with a firm base and a straight back can be used for this position.

• If you want to add in a toy, we suggest a bondage kit, which comes with soft restraints and a blindfold. Some couples enjoy the thrill of blindfolding and tying one partner to the chair while the other controls everything they feel.

Standing Sex
If you have joint pain or osteoporosis, sex that requires you to squat your knees or be on all fours can be painful. Standing sex eases stress on the knees and back. Try standing with your back to your partner, and your upper body supported by leaning against a wall or a ledge (a kitchen or bathroom counter with a pillow for your elbows can provide a lot of support). Your partner can enter you from behind while reaching ahead to use the same ledge or wall for support.

• A suction handle is a wonderful aid for standing sex, both in and out of the shower. You can attach the handle to the wall or ledge you and your partner are using for an extra secure support system.

Further Information 

Arthritis

Whether in the hands, wrists, knees or feet, arthritis can often prove an obstacle to sex and intimacy. Alternate positions that reduce the need for using affected joints can go a long way towards making sex more accessible and enjoyable.

Back Pain/Injury

Back pain can make nearly everything you do more difficult, especially something as physical as sex. But it doesn’t have to erase possibilities. Dealing with back pain in sex is like dealing with it everywhere: you accommodate. You find ways to still have great, mutually-satisfying intercourse. We can help with that.

Erectile Dysfunction

Stress, heart disease, aging: there are many factors in erectile dysfunction, which is why over half of all men experience either short- or long-term ED. But with hollow strap-ons, anal explorer kits, beads, and more, there doesn’t need to be a loss of activity in the bedroom.

General Joint or Muscle Pain

Any of a number of ailments or injuries can cause (acute or chronic) joint and muscle pain, resulting in some sex positions being more painful than others. Don't try to 'power through the pain'... seek out alternative positions or sex acts that can still satisfy, without aggravating your existing pain.

Hip Replacement

Hip replacement used to be synonymous with the end of activity, including sex. But that is no longer the case. Advances in hips—and in the sex toys that can make up for any loss of movement or balance—mean that surgery is no longer the end of a sex life, but a new beginning.

Wheelchair

Being in a wheelchair doesn’t have to be a limitation to sexuality; in fact, it can open up whole new worlds of angles and positions. The chair itself can be incorporated kinkily and excitingly, and you and your partner can find whole new avenues of intimacy.


Sportsheets Sex Toys and Sexual Positioning Devices

Our First Bondage Kit
This kit comes with four comfortable, safe, and easy-to-use ankle/wrist cuffs that firmly anchor to your favorite chair, bench, or bed. Smooth hook & loop restraints around your partners' limbs, slip on the soft-as-satin blindfold and let the fun begin.

 

I Like It Doggie Style Strap
The I Like It Doggie Style Strap compresses the vaginal canal for a tighter sensation while giving greater access to the G-spot, eases wear and tear on love handles as you pull them close, and relieves stress on the lower back - resulting in a mutually satisfying and deepened experience. Ideal for couples dealing with injuries or fatigue in the hips, back, or knees, 

 

Suction Handle Grip
A suction handle is a wonderful aid for standing sex, both in and out of the shower. You can attach the handle to the wall or ledge you and your partner are using for an extra secure support system.

 

 

 

Click here for our full selection of products chosen specifically to enhance sex over 60

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Guide to Sex Toy Cleaning

Guide to Sex Toy Cleaning

Nobody likes to talk about cleaning up… but that doesn’t make it any less important, especially when it comes to dildos, vibrators, and other sex toys. Apart from anything else, cleaning your toys properly means that they will be in good condition and ready to go when you next want to use them.

That’s not the only reason to keep things clean. Give your toys the attention they deserve, and they’ll last a whole long longer than they otherwise might.

As toys are often made from a range of different materials, cleaning might seem like a complicated task. It’s not. If we break down toys into a few broad categories, picking the correct cleaning routine becomes a pretty easy job.

Sharing toys

Everyone loves to share, but with insertable sex toys that comes with a big caveat. If you plan to share your toys with other people, you need to be extra careful when it comes to cleaning. It would be best if you were extra careful when it comes to selecting what toys you use since some can’t be cleaned effectively enough to share.

If you want to share toys, you can save yourself much trouble by covering each toy with a condom before use, or sticking to pure silicone, steel, or glass toys. These kinds of toys will stand up to rigorous cleaning, and (with a little care and patience) can be made safe to share.

What are my sex toys made of?

Many sex toys are made from silicone, PVC, rubber, or a mix of these materials. These materials are used because they’re body-safe, but also soft, pliable, and pleasant to touch. You can also find toys that are made of steel and glass. What your toys are made of will determine how they are cleaned.

Sometimes it’s obvious what a sex toy is made out of. Sometimes it’s not; toys that feel like silicone or rubber might be a mix of the two. If you’re unsure of the material you’re dealing with, it’s best to consult the packaging. If you order sex toys online, it’s also possible to look up the original listing to find out what a toy is made from.

Cleaning silicone

Pure silicone is a resilient, non-porous material, which makes it nice and easy to clean (as well as great for making all kinds of sex toys). If you’re the only one using the toy, a thorough wash with an appropriate toy cleaner and hot water should be sufficient.

If you plan on sharing the toy in question, you should use something stronger. A ten percent dilute bleach solution is perfect, but a reasonably strong disinfectant will also do the job. Don’t forget to rinse off any residue from cleaning agents before allowing the toy to dry, though!

Cleaning rubber and plastic

Rubber, plastic, and non-pure silicone are porous, which makes them very difficult to clean. The best you can do is use hot water and soap and scrub them thoroughly. Let them dry out completely before you put them away.

Even when toys made from porous materials look clean, they might not be. Because of this, rubber and plastic toys (as well as toys made from a mix of different materials) should never be shared. Once you’ve played with a given toy, it’s yours forever.

Cleaning glass and steel

Glass and steel are both resilient materials, and not at all absorbent. This means you can use much harsher cleaning methods on them. You can clean glass and steel toys with a dilute bleach solution, or boil them for ten minutes between uses in order to sterilize them.

A word of caution, though – you’ll want to protect your glass or steel toys from chips and scratches. Handle them with care, and inspect them before each use to ensure that they don’t have even the smallest scratch or chip. If they do, it’s time to go shopping for a new toy. Playing with a damaged toy isn’t worth the risk.

Cleaning other materials

Some toys are made out of a combination of the above materials, or out of other synthetic materials. In the case of these toys (or if you’re not sure what your toy is made of), it’s best to err on the side of caution. Don’t share it with anyone else, and make sure to clean it thoroughly with toy cleaner and hot water between each use.

Mind your lubes!

Very little will degrade sex toys faster than using the wrong kind of lube. If you want to play it safe, then stick to water-based lubricants, which are safe to use with almost any toy. Silicone-based lubricants are a bit trickier – you’ll find that they don’t mix well with some silicone and rubber toys, or with certain types of condom.

How to store your sex toys

Once your toys are clean and dry, you can put them safely away until you next want to play. Whether you keep them in a drawer, a toy chest, or a box under the bed is up to you – but you should invest in some bags to store them in. Sex toys last longer if they’re kept separate from one another.

Why is this? Well, some of the materials sex toys are made from can be lightly reactive to one another. If you throw all your silicone toys into the same drawer you might soon find that they’ve melted into a gooey mess or become stuck to one another. That’s not a great end to the life of any sex toy, and will certainly put an end to any fun you might have had!

Conclusion

The proper cleaning and storage of your sex toy collection isn’t the most exciting topic imaginable… but it is worth knowing about. After all, well-cared-for sex toys will last a whole lot longer, and provide you with much more joy, excitement, and pleasure. Surely that’s worth a little extra time spent cleaning things up?

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D/s Agreement

D/s Agreement

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Made this day                                                   ("The Commencement Date”)  BETWEEN (Dom) __________________________  and  (submissive) _________________________

 THE PARTIES AGREE AS FOLLOWS

 

  1. The following are the terms of a binding contract between the Dominant (Dom) and the

 

FUNDAMENTAL TERMS

 

  1. The fundamental purpose of this contract is to allow the submissive to explore their sensuality and limits safely, with due respect and regard for their needs, limits, and

 

  1. The Dom and the submissive agree and acknowledge that all that occurs under the terms of this contract will be consensual, confidential, and subject to the approved limits and safety procedures set out in this contract. Additional restrictions and safety procedures may be approved in writing.

 

  1. The Dom and the submissive each warrant that they suffer from no sexual, serious, infectious, or life-threatening illnesses including but not limited to HIV, Herpes, and If during the Term (as defined below) or any extended term of this contract either party should be diagnosed with or become aware of any such illness they will inform the other immediately and in any event before any form of physical contact between the parties.

 

  1. Adherence to the above warranties, agreements, and undertakings (and any additional limits and safety procedures agreed under clause 3 above) are fundamental to this contract. Any breach shall render it void with immediate effect, and each party consents to be fully responsible to the other for the consequence of any breach.

 

  1. Everything in this contract must be read and interpreted in the light of the fundamental purpose, and the underlying terms set out in clauses 2-5

 

ROLES

 

  1. The Dom shall take responsibility for the wellbeing and the proper training, guidance, and discipline of the submissive. Dom shall decide the nature of such training, guidance, and discipline and the time and place of its administration, subject to the agreed terms, limitations and safety procedures set out in this contract or agreed additionally under clause 3

 

  1. If at any time the Dom should fail to keep to the agreed terms, limitations and safety procedures set out in this contract or agreed additionally under clause 3 above the submissive is entitled to terminate this contract forthwith and to leave the service of the Dom without notice.

 

  1. Subject to that proviso and to clauses 2-5 above the submissive is to serve and obey the Dom in all things. Subject to the agreed terms, limitations and safety procedures set out in this contract or agreed additionally under clause 3 above they shall without query or hesitation offer the Dom, such pleasure may require, and they shall accept without question or hesitation his training, guidance, and discipline in whatever form it may

 

COMMENCEMENT AND TERM

 

  1. The Dom and submissive enter into this contract on The Commencement Date fully aware of its nature and undertake to abide by its conditions without

 

  1. This contract shall be effective for three Calendar Months from The Commencement Date (“The Term”). On the expiry of the Term, the parties shall discuss whether this contract and the arrangements they have made under this contract are satisfactory and whether the needs of each party have been met. Either party may propose the extension of this contract subject to adjustments to its terms, or to the arrangements they have made under it. In the absence of an agreement to such extension, this contract shall terminate, and both parties shall be free to resume their lives

 

AVAILABILITY

 

  1. The submissive will make herself available to the Dom from Friday evenings through to Sunday afternoons each week during the Term at times to be specified by the Dom (“the Allotted Times”). Further allocated time can be mutually agreed on an ad hoc

 

  1. The Dom reserves the right to dismiss the submissive from his service at any time and for any reason. The submissive may request her release at any time, such request to be granted at the discretion of the Dom subject only to the submissive’s rights under clauses 2-5 and 8 above.

 

LOCATION

 

  1. The submissive will make herself available during the Allotted Times and agreed additional times at locations to be determined by the Dom. The Dom will ensure that all travel costs incurred by the submissive for that purpose are met by the

 

SERVICE PROVISIONS

 

  1. The following service provisions have been discussed and agreed and will be adhered to by both parties during the Both parties accept that certain matters may arise which are not covered by the terms of this contract or the service provisions, or that certain matters may be renegotiated. In such circumstance, further clauses may be proposed by way of amendment. Any further clauses or amendments must be agreed, documented and signed by both parties and shall be subject to the fundamental terms set out at clauses 2-5 above.

 

DOMINANT

 

  • The Dom shall make the submissive’s health and safety a priority at all times. The Dom shall not at any time require, request, allow or demand the submissive to participate at the hands of the Dom in the activities detailed in Appendix 2 or in any activity that either party deems to be unsafe. The Dom will not undertake or permit to be undertaken any action which could cause serious injury or any risk to the submissive’s life. The remaining sub-clauses of this clause 15 are to be read subject to this proviso and to the fundamental matters agreed in clauses 2-5

 

  • The Dom accepts the submissive as theirs, to own, control, dominate and discipline during the The Dom may use the submissive’s body at any time during the Allotted Times or any agreed additional times in any manner they deem fit, sexually or otherwise.

 

  • The Dom shall provide the submissive with all necessary training and guidance on how to properly serve the

 

  • The Dom shall maintain a stable and safe environment in which the submissive may perform her duties in service of the

 

  • The Dom may discipline the submissive as necessary to ensure the submissive fully appreciates her role of subservience to the Dom and to discourage unacceptable conduct. The Dom may flog, spank, whip or corporally punish the submissive as they see fit, for purposes of discipline, for their own personal enjoyment, or for any other reason, which they are not obliged to

 

  • In training and in the administration of discipline, the Dom shall ensure that no permanent marks are made upon the submissive’s body unless prior discussion is conducted, nor any injuries incurred that may require medical

 

  • In training and in the administration of discipline the Dom shall ensure that the discipline and the instruments used for the purposes of discipline are safe, shall not be used in such a way as to cause serious harm and shall not in any way exceed the limits defined and detailed in this

 

  • In case of illness or injury, the Dom shall care for the submissive, seeing to their health and safety, encouraging and when necessary, ordering medical attention when it is judged necessary by the

 

  • The Dom shall maintain good health and seek medical attention when necessary to maintain a risk-free environment

 

  • The Dom shall not loan his submissive to another Dom; unless prior discussion has followed.

 

  • The Dom may restrain, handcuff, or bind the submissive at any time during the Allotted Times or any agreed additional times for any reason and for extended periods, giving due regard to the health and safety of the

 

  • The Dom will ensure that all equipment used for the purposes of training and discipline shall be maintained in a clean, hygienic, and safe state at all

 

SUBMISSIVE

 

  • The submissive accepts the Dom as master, with the understanding that they now the property of the Dom, to be dealt with as the Dom pleases during the Term generally but specifically during the Allotted Times and any additional agreed allotted

 

  • The submissive shall obey the rules (“the Rules”) set out in Appendix 1 to this

 

  • The submissive shall serve the Dom in any way the Dom sees fit and shall endeavor to please the Dom at all times to the best of her

 

  • The submissive shall take all measures necessary to maintain her good health and shall request or seek medical attention whenever it is needed, keeping the Dom informed at all times of any health issues that may

 

  • The submissive will ensure that they procures oral contraception and ensure that takes it as and when prescribed to prevent any

 

  • The submissive shall accept without question any and all disciplinary actions deemed necessary by the Dom and remember her status and role regarding the Dom at all times.

 

  • The submissive shall not touch or pleasure herself sexually without permission from the Dom.

 

  • The submissive shall submit to any sexual activity demanded by the Dom and shall do without hesitation or

 

  • The submissive shall accept whippings, floggings, spankings, caning, paddling or any other discipline the Dom should decide to administer, without hesitation, inquiry or complaint.

 

  • The submissive shall not look directly into the eyes of the Dom except when specifically instructed to do so. The submissive shall keep her eyes cast down and maintain a quiet and respectful bearing in the presence of the

 

  • The submissive shall always conduct herself in a respectful manner to the Dom and shall address him only as Sir, Grey, or such other title as the Dom may direct.

 

  • The submissive will not touch the Dom without his express permission to do

 

ACTIVITIES

 

  1. The submissive shall not participate in activities or any sexual acts that either party deems to be unsafe or any activities detailed in Appendix

 

  1. The Dom and the submissive have discussed the activities set out in Appendix 3 and recorded in writing on Appendix 3 their agreement in respect of
 SAFEWORDS

 

  1. The Dom and the submissive recognize that the Dom may make demands of the submissive that cannot be met without incurring physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, or other harm at the time the demands are made to the submissive. In such circumstances related to this, the submissive may make use of a safeword (“The Safeword (s)”). Two Safewords will be invoked depending on the severity of the

 

  1. The Safeword “_________________________” will be used to bring to the attention of the Dom that the submissive is close to her limit of

 

  1. The Safeword “_________________________” will be used to bring to the attention of the Dom that the submissive cannot tolerate any further demands. When this word is said, the Dom’s action will cease entirely with immediate

 

CONCLUSION

 

  1. We the undersigned have read and understood the provisions of this contract fully. We freely accept the terms of this contract and have acknowledged this by our signatures

 

The Dominant __________________________

 

Date __________________________

 

 

The submissive __________________________

 

Date __________________________

 

APPENDIX 1 - RULES

Obedience:

The submissive will obey any instructions given by the Dom immediately without hesitation or reservation and in an expeditious manner. The submissive will agree to any sexual activity deemed fit and pleasurable by the Dom excepting those activities which are outlined in hard limits (Appendix 2). They will do so eagerly and without hesitation.

 

Sleep:

The submissive will ensure they achieve a minimum of eight hours sleep a night when not with the Dom.

 

Food:

The submissive will eat regularly to maintain her health and wellbeing from a prescribed list of foods (Appendix 4). The submissive will not snack between meals, except ____________________.

 

Clothes:

During the Term, the submissive will wear clothing only approved by the Dom. The Dom will provide a clothing budget for the submissive, which the submissive shall utilize. The Dom shall accompany the submissive to purchase clothing on an ad hoc basis. If the Dom so requires, the submissive shall, during the Term, wear adornments the Dom shall require, in the presence of the Dom and any other time the Dom deems fit.

 

Exercise:

The Dom shall provide the submissive with a personal trainer four times a week in hour-long sessions at times to be mutually agreed between the personal trainer and the submissive. The personal trainer will report to the Dom on the submissive’s progress.

 

Personal Hygiene/Beauty:

The submissive will keep herself clean and shaved and/or waxed at all times. The submissive will visit a beauty salon of the Dom’s choosing at times to be decided by the Dom, and undergo whatever treatments the Dom sees fit. All costs will be met by the Dom.

 

Personal Safety:

The submissive will not drink to excess, smoke, take recreational drugs or put herself in any unnecessary danger.

 

Personal Qualities:

The submissive will not enter into any sexual relations with anyone other than the Dom. The submissive will conduct herself in a respectful and modest manner at all times. They must recognize that her behavior is a direct reflection on the Dom. They shall be held accountable

 

for any misdeeds, wrongdoings and misbehavior committed when not in the presence of the Dom.

 

Failure to comply with any of the above will result in immediate punishment, the nature of which shall be determined by the Dom.

 

APPENDIX 2

 

Hard Limits

 

No acts involving fire play

No acts involving defecation and the products thereof

No acts involving needles, knives, cutting, piercing, or blood

No acts involving gynecological medical instruments No acts involving children or animals

No acts that will leave any permanent marks on the skin No acts involving breath control

No activity that involves the fire or flames to the body.

 

APPENDIX 3

 

Soft Limits

 

To be discussed and agreed between both parties:

Which of the following sexual acts are acceptable to the submissive?

  • Masturbation
  • Fellatio
  • Cunnilingus
  • Vaginal intercourse
  • Vaginal fisting
  • Anal intercourse
  • Anal fisting

Is swallowing semen acceptable to the submissive?                      

Is the use of sex toys acceptable to the submissive?                                    

  • Vibrators
  • Dildos
  • Butt Plugs
  • Other

Is Bondage acceptable to the submissive?

 

  • Hands in front
  • Hands behind back
  • Ankles
  • Knees
  • Elbows
  • Wrists to ankles
  • Spreader bars
  • Tied to furniture
  • Blindfolding
  • Gagging
  • Bondage with Rope
  • Bondage with Tape
  • Bondage with leather cuffs
  • Suspension
  • Bondage with handcuffs/metal restraints

 

What is the submissive’s general attitude about receiving pain?

 

Where 1 is likes intensely and 5 is dislikes intensely: 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5

 

How much pain does the submissive want to receive?

 

Where 1 is none, and 5 is severe: 1 – 2 – 3 – 4 – 5

 

Which of the following types of pain/punishment/discipline are acceptable to the submissive?

 

 

  • Spanking
  • Paddling
  • Whipping
  • Caning
  • Biting
  • Nipple clamps
  • Genital clamps
  • Ice
  • Hot Wax
  • Other types/methods of pain
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Best Toys for Couples: The Top Sex Accessories To Heat Up Your Bedroom

Best Toys for Couples: The Top Sex Accessories To Heat Up Your Bedroom

A well-stocked bedroom is like a well-stocked bar. You need to have more than a pack of condoms, just as you need more than a case of Natty Light.

It’s not enough to have walls and a mattress. There are times you’re in the mood for simple, and times you’re in the mood for complex. There are times you want pure pleasure and times you want a hint of pain. Are you stocked for it?

 

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