We hope that our ‘BDSM checklist’ for establishing and setting both hard and soft limits will help you fully explore your sexuality and enjoy the sensual contrast of power dynamics between two or more people.
How does that old phrase go?: Cleanliness is next to godliness, and whatever else you do, be certain to clean your sex toys. I think that’s it. Properly cleaning sex toys isn’t hard work, but it is serious business. The consequences of not cleaning your sex toy are more significant than you might think. Sex toys come in a huge range of shapes and materials, and that will affect how you want to go about cleaning them. But there are some general tips to keep in mind, as well as specific instructions for individual materials.
You never forget your first time, but most people don’t remember their second. And this isn’t just about sex (although, really, it’s mostly about sex). You probably don’t remember your second day at a job, second car, second date... Unless something spectacular happens at one of them (like if the second date is the first time), your second everything is usually the first step toward forgetfulness. It’s where things start to blend in. That’s just human nature. We’re happy to report, though, that sex toys are the exception to the rule.
There are a lot of people who are fascinated, intrigued, and turned on by the thought of bondage, restraint play, domination, submission, role-playing, or any other element that makes up BDSM sexuality. But they may be scared at the thought of pain, imagining that’s all BDSM is, and think that you have to jump right into being tied to a door and whipped. But we’d like to introduce you to a concept called “vanilla bondage.” Vanilla bondage is BDSM without the binding, flogs, or whips. It is BDSM for people who want to learn more, or who have learned more, and know precisely what they want.
Everyone has a first time for buying an adult toy, whether you are 18 or 80. And, despite things changing, and the ease that online shopping brings to the process, it remains the same for everyone: you have to find what makes you happy. But if you’ve never bought adult products before, you may not know the best ways of doing it, and may feel embarrassed about that, as well as nervous about buying them. Don’t be.